It’s time for a change.
People come to counseling for a variety of reasons. Fundamentally, however, most of the reasons boil down to one thing: We want something or someone to change.
Notice I didn’t say that WE want to change.
To be fair, some people come to counseling with the express intention to make a change in themselves. Perhaps they have recognized that they cannot change others (no matter how hard they try) and/or they may have accepted that they have no control over a stressful or painful situation or circumstance. The majority of us, however, default to blaming others for our stress or pain. We believe
IF THEY WOULD ONLY CHANGE
our lives would be perfect and our happiness complete.
This is particularly true in couples work. But I digress.